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Purpose Driven Life – Day Two

You Are Not an Accident

 I am your Creator.  You were in my care even before you were born.  Isaiah 44:2a (CEV)

The first line of Day 2 of PDL; “You are not an accident.”  How many times have I heard from a parent regarding their child, “my last one was just an accident!”  I know what they mean and more times than not, they are just trying to make a funny line out of the situation.  But the reality is that for millions of people, they have been given the message from their parent that they were not planned or wanted.  What about the millions upon millions of children who have been aborted in the last 34 years since the Roe v. Wade decision was handed down by our Supreme Court?  These babies were not planned but at the same time, they were not an accident.  Right now, those precious babies are in the presence of our Heavenly Father.  God has a different take on EVERY conception!  Yes, maybe you were not planned, but God was thinking about you before you were born!  There are unplanned pregnancies, but there are NO accidental children!

That being said, what does that mean for me?  God created this world to be inhabited by His ENTIRE creation; that includes you and me!  There is a God who made you for a reason, and your life has profound meaning!  We discover that meaning and purpose only when we make God the reference point of our lives.  Pastor Rick is telling us that no matter what negative messages you have received from your parents, your spouse, friends, children, co-workers, or the world; you are the most important creation of God and your life has tremendous meaning. 

Here’s an example.  Why in the world would God allow a child to be born into a loving family then allow that child to die either by disease or accident or by the hands of another human being?  This is a question for the ages.  I think that God allows us as parents to go through that kind of pain so that we can in turn be a source of comfort and support to another parent going through the same thing.  It’s part of your purpose for which you were created!  Read the poem by Russell Kelfer on pp 25-26 of PDL and this point will make more sense to you.

A point to ponder:  I am not an accident. Regardless of all the negative messages given to me from the world, I am precious to God because He was thinking about me when He created this world!

A verse to remember: “I am your Creator.  You were in my care even before you were born.”  Isaiah 44:2a (CEV)  What an amazing comfort to know that the Creator of the universe was thinking about me before I was born.  That one fact gives my life ultimate meaning.

 A question to consider: I know that God uniquely created me.  What areas of my personality, background, and physical appearance am I struggling to accept?  I don’t know about you, but this is a very tough question.  The one part of my personality that gives me the most problem is my tendency to be obsessive.  When I take on a project or a job, I obsess about it.  I will work many hours way beyond what are sometimes necessary to do a good job because I want everything to be perfect.  When perfection is not achieved, I take it personally.  This is one that I’m working on.  How about you?

Be encouraged today friends!  Randy

The Regret Game

Do not call to mind the former things or ponder things of the past. Behold, I will do something new, now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it?  I will even make a roadway in the wilderness; rivers in the desert.                                                           Isaiah 43:18-19 (NAS)

What is your favorite game?  Here are my four favorites; Monopoly, spades, football and baseball.  I’m 54 years old now, guess which two I can still play and not get hurt too badly?  You guessed right!  I love to play baseball and football but if I do, I stand a pretty good chance of coming home with some serious aches and pains. 

If you are like me, there is another game we play that can also give us some serious aches and pains; it’s called “The Regret Game.”  This is not a game at which you want to become a master; if you do, it will eventually become your master!

How often do you play and what are your favorite Regret Game cards?  Here’s a few…..Why did I say that?…..If only I had married,                    …..If I had not taken that first drink…..If only I had listened to               …..and my personal favorite, “If only I had kept that 1965 Mustang!”

The thing to remember is that no one is perfect.  We all have regrets; we’ve all made bad choices, said foolish things and hurt ourselves and others.

A few years ago, Pastor Rick Warren wrote about getting over the regrets in our lives.  The following points are his but I’ve added my own thoughts.

How do you release your regrets?  Here are several strategies we tend to use that simply do not work:

You try to bury your past. It’s a common tactic, but burying the past will never help you get past your regrets. We minimize, compromise and rationalize but you will not get past the regrets by just acting like you haven’t made any mistakes!  What’s done is done and no amount of forgetting about or burying your past will change things. We have to face our past then not make the same mistake again.  This is the core of the gospel; confession, repentance, and restoration.  You do not have to regret your mistakes!  Through confession and repentance, embrace your past mistakes and be restored to a right relationship with our Heavenly Father!

We blame others.  Here is a favorite of many…..blame someone else!  I can’t tell you how many students have been in front of me for a discipline conference and when asked what happened, they immediately come down with a major case of the “It’s Not My Fault Syndrome!”  Most adults are no different!  Our world is full of men and women who blame someone else.  You’ve heard it too…”My wife didn’t love me like she should”…..”I didn’t have a daddy to show me the way”….”My momma didn’t love me like she should have!”  Every one of us has something in our past that will facilitate current and future decision-making;  but at the same time, we DECIDE to make wrong decisions.  Blaming others will not make the regrets go away!   

We beat up on ourselves.  Depression, doubt, self-hate are all a result of spending our time beating up on ourselves for wrong decisions and actions.  In an ill-conceived effort to relieve the pain, we keep giving ourselves a good beating for making stupid decisions.  Here is the problem with beating up on ourselves; we don’t know when to stop!  “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”  Romans 8:1 (NAS)

What does God want you to do with your regrets?

Admit your guilt.  Own up to your mistakes and quit making excuses. “A man who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful.  But if he confesses them, he gets another chance.”  Proverbs 28:13 (LB).

Accept Christ’s forgiveness.  Do you really want to be free of all the regrets?  Then accept His forgiveness and live in the light of His righteousness. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9 (NAS)

Forgive yourself and focus on the future.  Regarding our past deeds, I have this philosophy, “It is what it is, just deal with it!”  If God has forgiven us, who are we to continue to live with condemnation and self-doubt?    “Do not call to mind the former things or ponder things of the past. Behold, I will do something new, now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it?  I will even make a roadway in the wilderness; rivers in the desert.”  Isaiah 43:18-19 (NAS)

Friends, let’s live in the light of Christ’s love and forgiveness and free ourselves of this demon we call regret!

Be encouraged my friends,

Randy

Come Down from the Mountain!

     The air is thin; it’s difficult to breathe as you climb higher and higher.  You, and your climbing partners, are struggling just to get a breath.  Your chest aches, the muscles in your legs begin to cramp because there isn’t enough oxygen.  With each step you think to yourself, “Why did I think I could climb this mountain?”  You look around and realize that even the trees can’t survive at this altitude!  But your friends, those closest to you are right there, encouraging you to the top of the mountain.  There must be a reason for the pain; what’s so important about the top of the mountain?  What’s the big deal?  It would be so easy to turn around; no more climbing, no more muscle cramps, the breathing is easier in the valley.  But, you know there is something special at the top of the mountain, so you keep climbing.   When you reach the peak you understand why the pain of the climb was worth it!  The sky is bluer, the air is cleaner, and the view of God’s creation is nothing short of amazing!  All your senses are on high alert; this is something special.  It’s a moment to remember; one of those life-marker moments.  Then it hits you, you can’t stay here; you have to come down from the mountain!  

     We’ve all had mountaintop experiences.   Those special experiences are good and necessary for our edification, character development and simply our enjoyment.  For Jesus, one of those experiences is recorded in scripture when He took Peter, James and John, His inner circle, to the top of a mountain and gave them a glimpse of His future glory.  This was a mountaintop experience on steroids!  For me, the most important part of that story is recorded in Matthew 17:9, “And as they were coming down from the mountain…..”  There are three things I’ve learned about why coming down from the mountain is a very good thing.

  1.  We can’t live on the mountaintop!   Jesus taught us that our place is in the valley, not on the mountaintop.  He could have stayed with Peter, James, and John on the mountain; they even offered to build a shelter for Him, but He knew that His place was in the valley.  There are special experiences on the mountaintop, but it’s in the valley where life and ministry take place.
  2. We can’t depend on mountaintop experiences to sustain us!  The mountaintop was not designed to sustain us.  All the water, air, food, and vegetation is in the valley!  Everything we need to sustain our lives is in the valley.  If you are depending on mountaintop experiences to sustain your spiritual life, you are going to be starved!  Your spiritual sustenance is in the valley. 
  3. The mountaintop can be a dangerous place!  The Discovery Channel has a show about Mt. Everest and the people who travel there to climb the world’s highest peak.  One episode featured a group of climbers who were making their way up the last part of the climb.  One of the members of the climbing party couldn’t keep up so he fell behind.  The person in charge of those groups was at base camp and radioed him to come down the mountain because he knew that this guy wasn’t going to make the peak.  The man refused to turn back, ran out of oxygen, got caught in a storm, and died on the mountain.  Even those amazing mountaintop experiences can be deadly if we fail to see their purpose in our lives.

     It’s been my experience that trying to live on the mountaintop can be very destructive.  There is great stress and danger in using those experiences to define your success, purpose, and even your life itself.  The real living happens in the valley.   Celebrate those mountaintop experiences, but let’s remember to come down from the mountain!  There will be more to come about living in the valley.

Be encouraged friends!

Randy

A Simpler Life

“Be sure to do what you should, for then you will enjoy the personal satisfaction of having done your work well, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” (Galatians 6:4-5 NLT)

A few years ago Pastor Rick Warren wrote the book, The Purpose-Driven Life.  That book changed my life.  The problem is that over a period of time, I reverted to my default of just “The Driven Life.”  Can you relate?  Anyway, because of that, I was forced into a major life change this past year.  You’ll hear more about that in an upcoming blog.  For now, I wanted to share this devotional written by Pastor Warren.  When I ran across it this morning, I had a feeling that someone would read this and get some much needed encouragement today.  That’s my prayer as I send it out to you.  Be encouraged friends! 

Randy

Those of us who have Type A personalities, feel like we have to get it all done, and then we crash and burn when we can’t do it all. If you want to simplify your life, you need to understand that it’s all about making choices – and then sticking to those choices, no matter how tempting it is to add more to your “to do”list.   It’s easy to forget this, but it’s true: You’re the only one who must assume responsibility for your time, and you’re the only one who can clarify what’s really important to you. The choices you make control your calendar and, as a result, your lifestyle. Your choices are far more powerful than your circumstances, and you have the power to simplify your life by making purpose-full choices.

The Bible teaches, “We are each responsible for our own conduct.” (Galatians 6:4-5 NLT) That’s why it’s so important to discover why God placed you on this planet: What is your purpose for being here?

In the long run, the donation of your life will count far more than the duration. In other words, it’s not how long you live – or even how much you cram into the length of your life – it’s about how you live, according to God’s purpose for you.

What now?

· Let your purpose guide what you do with your life. As you serve, serve where you know God intends for you to serve. Don’t just volunteer for anything or everything. As you pray about it, you may sense God is prompting you to start a “not to do” list!

· You have just enough time to do God’s will. You’ve been given just enough time to fulfill His purpose over the next 30 days. When you try to do more than God planned for you to do, it’s only natural that you’ll stress over your schedule.

· Does your list include rest? God doesn’t want you to burn out; in fact, he may want you to specifically add “rest” to your to-do list because he knows you’re trying to overdo it. Does your list include getting rest and having some fun?  If not, it sure should!

Five Life Lessons

Good morning friends.  My heart is heavy today because of the mass murder that occurred at Ft. Hood, Texas yesterday, November 5, 2009.  I work for the Killeen Independent School District just a short distance from where this unspeakable crime was committed.  Yesterday, during the event, we were all huddled around our computer screens watching the live news feeds and anxiously waiting to hear about friends and family on post.  Nine of our schools were locked down from 1:30-7:15pm.  We are all so proud of our staff at those schools who took excellent care of the children during this very tense time. 

When I woke up this morning, my first thought was about the events of yesterday and wondered what we could learn.  I searched some of my files and ran across this writing.  Again, not my composition but I share it with your for your encouragement today.  My comments are added.

1.  Remember the Cleaning Lady
During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:  “What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?”  Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50’s, but how would I know her name?  I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. “Absolutely, ” said the professor. “In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say “hello.” I’ve never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.  My words:  I started my present job in the Killen Independent School District in July of this year.  Becuase there were only of a few of us on 12 month contracts, the building was fairly empty; except for the janitorial staff.  The first two people I met were Thomas and Mary (not their real names), our janitors.  I remembered this lesson and made sure that I learned their names.  They helped me move all my stuff into my office.  As I was decorating the walls of my office, in addition to my diplomas, I decided to hang my ministry credentials.   Mary saw this and asked if I were a minister.  I told her I was and she immediately asked if I would pray for her son; which we did, right then.  Friends, every conversation we have is an opportunity for ministry.   Learn their names!

2.  Pickup in the Rain
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960’s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance, and put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read:

“Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband’s bedside just before he passed away… God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.”   Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.  My words:  Ok, I don’t know if this is a true story or one of those modern myths, but the point is clear.  When confronted with an opportunity to help someone in distress, you NEVER know what might happen.  More than likely, you’ll get a “thank you” and that will be enough.  This side of heaven we’ll never know how our service to others has affected others for eternity.  Serve someone today.

3.  Always Remember Those Who Serve Us
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. “How much is an ice cream sundae?” he asked. “Fifty cents,” replied the waitress. The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. “Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?” he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. “Thirty-five cents,” she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. “I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies.. You see, he couldn’t have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.   My words:  I went to luunch with two of my colleagues yesterday.  We went back to a restaraunt where we had been only one time before, just a few days earlier.   We sat at the  same table and had the same waitress.  She not only remembered us but somehow remembered what we each had to drink.  I was amazed at her.  She had big smile on her face and obviously loved her job.  She was there to serve our meal, but instead she blessed me.  She earned a big tip from me.  Today, as you have opportunity, encourage those who serve you by being a big tipper!

4.  The Obstacle in Our Path
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!  Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.  My words:  What obstacle is in your path today?  I know some of you are battling disease, grief, lonliness, and heartache.  Your obstacles seem insurrmountable.  As you deal with the huge boulder in your way, know that God has a reward for you.  It may be during this life or in the life after, but there is a reward!  Keep striving to move that boulder! 

5.  Giving When It Counts
The story is told of a young girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, “Yes I’ll do it if it will save her.” As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, “Will I start to die right away”. Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.  My words:  Last night before I came home, I went by Scott and White Hospital here in Temple to give blood.  Ten of the soldiers who were shot yesterday were transported here for treatment and the call went out for blood donors.  I got to the hospital at about 6:45pm and couldn’t even get in because the line to donate blood was so long!  Those who serve us by putting their lives in danger needed our service yesterday and people from Central Texas showed up!  Here’s the lesson, today you’ll have an opportunity to give of yourself to help someone.  It may seem like a small thing, but in God’s economy, all those deposits we make are huge!  Be a servant today, give of yourself and let God do a great work through you.

Be encouraged my friends!

Randy

Attitude is Everything!

Good morning friends!  The following is not an original composition of mine; it was sent to me several years ago.  I’ve used it in presentations but have never been able to give credit to the author.  I bring it to you today for your encouragement.   

John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

He was a natural motivator.  If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.   Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?”

He replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.  I choose to be in a good mood.”

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.  Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or… I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life. “Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.
 “Yes, it is,” he said. “Life is all about choices.

When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.  You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line… It’s your choice how you live your life.”

I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.  After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.  I saw him about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins…Wanna see my scars?”  

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter,” he replied. “Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or…I could choose to die. I chose to live.”
“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.  He continued, “..the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared.  In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man’. I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

 “Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said John. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes, I replied’   The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply.   I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Gravity’.”  Over their laughter, I told them, “I am choosing to live.  Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”

He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude… I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.  

Attitude, after all, is everything.  “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34.

Randy’s words:  Today you may be facing the challenge of your life.  Is cancer present?   The child you raised to love God and others has gone his own way and your heart is breaking.  The job you have come to love and depend on will soon go away leaving you uncertain about your economic future.  Your spouse has deeply disappointed you; you are thinking about divorce.  Maybe one of the people you have loved most in this life has died, leaving you lonely and uncertain.  Have thoughts of suicide invaded your spirit?   What is your greatest battle today?  Friends, whatever the bettle, know that God is near.   “Behold the Lord’s hand is not so short that it cannot save; Neither is His ear so dull that is cannot hear.”   Here’s what I know:  If He carried the the weight of the world upon His shoulders, I know my brother that He will carry you.” (Scott Wesley Brown)

Be Encouraged Today!

Randy

God’s Prompting!

Hey Friends, for many years I have wanted to share my thoughts on a variety of topics.  I can remember 30 years ago telling my Pam that I wanted to write a book.  Well, one can write a book but getting it published is a whole other thing.  So, I never wrote my book, but for the last 30 years I have been saving up for a chance such as this.  Today, November1 , 2009 is lauch day for my writing career.  It’s my hope that as you read one of several things might happen.  Number one of which would be that you would be prompted to action!  Action to improve your own life and/or the lives of those around you.  After all, isn’t that what we all really want, to leave this world just a little better that we found it, and at the same time, experience the abundant life promised to us by God when we appropriate Christ into our lives?  I think so.  My prayer for this blog is that it encourages you to be and to use what God has probably already put in place in your life.  Here goes.

Pam and I spent time today at Scott and White Hospital in Temple, Tx.  It wasn’t my idea to visit the hospital, I wanted to watch the Dallas Cowboys beat up on the Seattle Seahawks.  Hospital ministry was the furthest thing from my mind, but God had a different idea.  Pam, my bride of 32 years, told me that God had prompted her to visit a lady in the hospital that was probably in the last days of her life and to pray for her salvation.  Being the supportive husband that I am, I told her that I would go with her and minister to this dear lady.  Being in the ministry for the past 30 years or so this type of ministry was second nature to me.  Those of you in the ministry know of what I speak, unless of course, you don’t do hospital ministry.  That’s another topic.  Anyway, we entered the room of this dear lady and her daughter, aunt and sister were present.  We introduced ourselves and asked if we could pray for this dear lady.  It was obvious that the three ladies present at the bedside were grateful for someone to come and pray.  The lady for whom we were there to pray, was non-responsive.  We would just have to pray to her spirit knowing the the Holy Spirit would and could get through to her even in her drug induced state.  Pam prayed the sweetest prayer for grace and mercy; I continued praying that God would continue to pursue this lady right up until her heart stopped beating.  When we finished, we looked up and the other ladies in the room were weeping.  We found out later, through another family member, that they didn’t know people like us existed.   People that would come to the bedside of someone in their final days and pray for healing, grace, mercy and salvation of a total stranger!   Of coures we know that the world is full of  people that when prompted by God, do exactly what He calls us to do.  Be it pray for a stranger, pick up a hitchhiker, give money to the guy on the street corner, call an old friend or family member who may be estranged, and of course share the gospel of Jesus Christ to a lost and dying world.  Well Pam and I were not called to share the gospel to a lost and dying world today, we were just called to pray for lady who is dying to find Jesus.  

Here’s my question to you…..What has God prompted you to do that you have not yet done?  Whatever it is, stop right now and do it!  If you don’t then you’ll find that rest will not come easy until you have done that which God has prompted you to do.

Be encouraged today my friends,

Randy